Who the Hell Do You Think You Are?

November 27th, 2010 by | Print


“If we all did the things we are really capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.” – Thomas Edison

You are selling you short, solopreneur.

How does it feel? Do you like the results you get from holding yourself back? Obviously, these are rhetorical questions because if you were completely satisfied, you wouldn’t be reading this post.

You want more. You believe you deserve more (and you do), but you’re struggling to accomplish more and have more … and then you start thinking, “Maybe I’m not as good as I think I am.” Wrong!

You are so much more than you think you are, but you catch yourself up in troubling thinking that holds you back. Yes, you caught you in this. I bet you’ve heard the expression, “Be, Do, Have”. Your thoughts lead to action that create results … good, bad or otherwise. It all starts with who you think you are and what you can accomplish.

Here are the top 6 mistakes solopreneurs make that hold them back from realizing their full potential and what you can do about it.

1. Undervaluing your own potential
Thinking small = taking small actions = small results

This is the thinking of “I can’t”, “I don’t have …” and “I can only …”. Is this the thinking that charges you up to take action? Is this the you that you dream of? You want better. You deserve better. Why do you think you deserve less?

2. Standing in your own way
I’m sure I’m not the first person to introduce you to the expression, “You need to get out of your own way”. Even though you know it, and you’re aware of it, chances are that you, like most people, can’t see it or don’t know how to get around it.

How do you know you’re standing in your own way? You feel it in frustration and fear.

How do you get around you? The bottom line to getting out of your own way is to simply give yourself permission to do so. You are a solopreneur. You are your own boss. I bet you quit a job because you hated the burden of doing someone else’s bidding whom you thought was making bad or weak decisions. If this is the case, then why did you go to work for you only to do the same to yourself? Fire you!

3. Applying your potential to inappropriate endeavors
This is the you that couldn’t wait to quit because you wanted to show you and the rest of the nay-saying world that you could kick some serious ass! So your first decision is to do what you always wanted to do, but have never done before. Weak choice. If you were to go to Vegas with only $100, would you gamble it in one bet on a game you’ve never played before?

Don’t let your ego talk you into proving how great you are by doing something grand that you’ve never done before. Save the “wouldn’t it be fun” new experiences for a hobby. And if you find that you develop a passion for the hobby and develop successes with it, then you can take the time to research if there is a business behind it.

Your process needs to start with some honest introspection followed by objective research before creating a plan of action. My Small Biz Break partner, Maria, and I wrote an ebook titled, “My Idea, My Research” to help you find your “Simple, Spontaneous, Success”. You can go to my Register page, enter your basic info and get access to my Solutions Center where you can download a free copy.

Don’t proceed further without investing the time to accomplish this. And if you’ve already started a business and find yourself struggling to grow it, take a step back and go through this free workbook. You may find that you have the wrong focus for your strengths, experience and passion.

4. Resenting failure
First, let me applaud you for failing. I know it’s possible that you take failure as a bruise to your ego, but don’t resent it. I’m applauding you for failing because it means you took action! So through failing, do you see yourself as a loser or an action-oriented learner? You made a mistake; get over it! You’ve exercised your entrepreneurial spirit. But now, you need to learn from it and correct your course of action.

5. Focusing on “can’t”
If you think you can’t, you won’t. Fear and frustration open up the inner dialogue to focus on what you shouldn’t or can’t accomplish. Failure is a big instigator for this shrinking thinking. Turn it around and start focusing on “I can”. Need help with this? Check out one of my previous posts, “3 Secrets for Going from ‘I Can’t’ to ‘I Did’” for some steps you can take to get you moving in the right direction.

6. Thinking like the you of today
What you accomplish today falls short of what you are capable of accomplishing. Are you thinking, “Screw you, Doug! I’m doing the best that I can!” Really?

To think bigger and take bigger action, you need to start thinking like the you of who you want to be. Most of us think like the us of who we are today. Stop selling yourself short. The bigger you of tomorrow thinks bigger, takes bigger action and has what you want. Start being that person today.

So, “Who the hell do you think you are?”

And now, what are you going to do about it to have what you deserve?

Introspection is the start, but without action, it is simply dreaming. Solopreneurs are action takers, not dreamers.

If you get muddled in finding your path to your solopreneur, “Simple, Spontaneous, Success”, take action and contact me for help.

All the Best,

Doug Dolan
The Solopreneur’s Guide


One Response to “Who the Hell Do You Think You Are?”

  1. Jenni P Says:

    I find this eternal struggle with ‘ego’ and getting out of our own way only adds to the resistance we feel because we are perceiving a distance from our goals. Embracing the challenges with lightness helps to dissolve the stodge. Passion is a perfect antidote. When we live in passion, the steps that sometimes feel like a push-me-pull-you, between aspiration and doubt are simply kissed on the cheek, given a smack on the butt and told to get hence:)

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